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Love is universally something everyone desires at one point in their lives. Yet, it's not that easy to obtain it, especially in the world of modern dating filled with apps, swiping, ghosting, mixed signals, and past traumas.
But just like cooking or dancing, dating is a skill you can become better at. You can learn how you hold yourself back from dating and create goals to change your ways.
If you're unsure where to start, why not check out these seven books for different aspects of your dating life:
Books for anxious daters.
Attached is one of the top adult psychology books for dating because it explains how our parents raised us as children affect how we experience relationships as adults. This phenomenon is called attachment theory. It explains that most people have one of four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant, and secure.
Most people who resonate with having an anxious attachment find this book mind-blowing, so that's why it's at the top of this list.
And don't worry if you have never heard of attachment theory and therefore don't know your attachment style. The book helps you with all of that!
If you wonder why you overthink, take dating personally, and always feel insecure when you meet someone new, The Wisdom of Anxiety is for you. Most people think they need to change their external circumstances to "fix" their anxiety, but Sheryl Paul has a different approach.
Instead of beating yourself up or ignoring your worries, she encourages you to listen to your anxiety. By becoming aware of why anxiety comes up for you and what's not being honored, you can start to date in ways that make you less anxious.
Books for healing.
Boundaries aren't meant to keep people out of your life; you create them so you can thrive in relationships. Set Boundaries, Find Peace helps you create boundaries in all aspects of your life, including relationships.
Whether you struggle with too little or too many boundaries, this book has your back.
Amy's book isn't just about breakups; it's also about creating healthier relationships moving forward. If you're someone who feels their exes aren't physically in their life anymore but still live rent-free in their mind, this book is for you.
You'll learn not only to move on from your breakup but also how to no longer let your past relationships hold you back.
Books to date authentically.
You know the parts of yourself you feel you have to hide or make smaller for someone to love you? Well, Deeper Dating will help you realize that it's those exact parts of you that you should lead with.
Deeper Dating is the ultimate book on authentic dating. He teaches you how to love who you are and date in a way that helps you find someone who will appreciate all that you have to offer.
This book was written by yours truly! I wrote it during my career as a dating and relationship author because I felt the world lacked a solid book on love, breakups, dating, and self-care.
No matter what stage of dating you're at, there's something in my book for you. Personal narratives are woven together with BS-free advice that's helped thousands of people worldwide improve their love lives.
How to Not Die Alone is the perfect manual for navigating modern dating and the unhelpful dating advice you most likely heard while growing up.
Logan talks about forgetting first-date sparks, what to look for in a partner, and how to meet people off dating apps and in real life.
If you struggle with feeling insecure and overthinking when you date, check out my free dating anxiety journal prompts.
If you want to move towards feeling confident and secure when looking for love, grab your copy of my 30-day dating guide, "From Anxious to Secure."